Parenting can be challenging! We want to support and strengthen all families.
Here are some tips that may help you!
There is no magic formula to parenting. Just when you feel you understand your two-year-old, she will turn three and you will feel like you are starting over. This is natural… but challenging! When your nerves are wearing thin, try one of these tips:
Take a deep breath
Count to ten. Imagine that with each deep breath, you are letting out frustration.
Take a break
If your children are over the age of 9 and you feel it is safe to leave them alone for a few minutes, go for a brisk walk around the block.
Remove yourself from the room
If you can't leave the house, go into a separate room for at least three minutes and try to cool off.
Call a friend, family member, or crisis line
Talk to someone about your situation.
Write it out
Take a pen and paper and write everything that comes into your head, even the ugly stuff. Then crumple or tear it up and throw it away.
Get physical in a safe way
Do fifteen jumping jacks or run up and down a set of stairs. Be careful and do not do this if you feel it will frighten your child.
Peaceful Parenting Tips
Positive parenting means that we teach and guide our children. Because every child is different, this means that we need many parenting strategies in order to be effective. Try some of these tips to help guide and teach your children:
Use "I statements"
Tell your children how you feel and what you expect from them. For example: "Jake, I feel frustrated when you leave your toys all over the floor, and I need you to pick them up and put them away before dinner time."
Pick your battles
Sometimes we are our own worst enemy! Before taking on a conflict with your kids, decide if it is really worth the time and energy you're putting into it. If they want to wear mismatched clothes to school, will it hurt them or someone else? Find a way to let the small things go so that you don't run out of energy when the important issues come up.
Natural consequences, taking away privileges, and firm family rules are excellent ways to manage behavior without yelling or hitting. Many of us need to learn these techniques from someone else since they don't often come naturally. Take parenting classes, ask other parents who you respect, and read parenting books to get ideas that will work for your family.
Reward good behavior
It may seem oversimplified, but it's true… rewarding good behavior is the best way to get more good behavior. Kids love your attention. Lavish it on them when they aren't misbehaving!
Often ignoring behavior or redirecting the child to another activity is the best way to stop something you don't like, especially for young children.